Sisterhood Bridging the Gap

Sisterhood. When we find it we realize that having survived without it for so long was like living without fresh water. It breathes us back into life in the most unexpected, sincere and heart warming way possible.

Throughout my life I have been gifted with some beautiful circles of women. What we realize as we get older is that true sisterhood isn’t about women simply getting together but rather a certain type of woman getting together with others of her kind to uplift each other. Finding our unique kind of women to vibe and connect with is what defines sisterhood for each of us.

For me personally they are the women that trust each other despite having been burnt by many other women in the past, despite having existed in a network of competition most of their lives. Women who are honest with themselves and other women about their journey towards greater self-love. Women that no matter how much they might want to look strong rather than ‘weak’ in the eye of another women will trust themselves and those women around them to soften into vulnerability and show their underbelly of pain. Women who sit in their power as they allow themselves to unravel before other women is the most beautiful thing to watch. Because these aren’t the types of women looking for others to fix them, they are the types of women that let themselves unravel because they know it’s part of their process of re-aligning more authentically and acutely with self-empowerment and self-love, at a very deep level. These are not women who complain, they are women who express and through that expression begin to reflect and move forward with new insight. They constantly challenge themselves to find their inner truth and then with conviction they chose to live by it.

The women I vibe with don’t have an age group associated to them or much in common with regards to hobbies or social group identitifcation. What they have in common is an endlessly returning to the vibration of truth and love. I used to spend a lot of time with women who would sit and complain about life and other people, I’d endlessly hold their hands, waiting and convincing myself that being the witness was all that was needed to help them make that inner shift, inner reflection that leads to the aha empowerment moment but that was simply disconnecting them further from themselves and myself.

Not all women are ready for self-love, not all women are ready to let-go of what is no longer serving them and to truly embrace their divine feminine. For some their pain body has become a part of their identity, their journey, perhaps their destiny. I’ve always been dumfounded by people who complain so being gifted with a circle of women who put in the effort to love themselves enough not to follow the path of endless complaining and projecting has been very much appreciated.

I do believe we can create a new way for women to experience themselves in the company of other women. I especially desire this for our younger generations, those that are so bombarded with fitting into a mould of who they should be, an ideal image chiselled out by consumerism and driven by lower ego. How can girls create this sacred space of sisterhood for each other? We must bring it to their feet, we must pass down the knowledge through our words, actions and examples. Not only in the words spoken to each other but especially in the words shared ‘behind each other’s backs’. I have never understood the value in talking behind other women’s backs. What you see is what you get with me and this sacred trust that sisters can uphold for each other is more valuable than most realize. There is a difference between working an issue out with a mutual friend and blatantly trying to put someone down. Some women don’t realize that when they bring another woman down they are bringing themselves down.

Spending time in men’s circles has taught me that standing alone and working through my own issues alone cultivates a certain type of inner strength and well at the end of the day, we are born alone and we shall die alone, a solo journey. But what sisterhood has taught me is that we are born alone yet all connected through our love and die alone but will never feel alone once we’ve been touched by others who share the same idea of love as we do. There is a type of strength in this spirit and understanding that births courage to not turn on oneself when bitter times arrive. Unfortunately many women turn on themselves because they can’t tap into that inner love source, we’ve all been there but the idea is to cultivate enough inner wisdom to have it simply be a growth phase.

An awareness of what real genuine sisterhood means has forever changed me. As we awaken and our egos start to take the back seat in life we find that the theme of gathering can be nothing other than offering each other unconditional presence. Simply being the witness to others’ process, loving them unconditionally as they work through growth periods, experience life’s joys and in return giving ourselves equally in trust! Many women have been separated from this feeling and I can attest to you that true sisterhood can hold space to heal wounds that one never expected to heal in their lifetime.

Wishing you all to find your kind of men or women to connect with as you make your way through this crazy life! All the joys, the bitter sweet process of evolution, the laughter, the grace, the pain and the love.

One Love,

J