I am emotional but I am also emotionless at times. I have emotional rein on anything that is not relationship based but when it comes to relationships I can let emotions rule the atmosphere. This is mostly because my Venus is in Cancer. Knowing what sign is in your house of relationships will help you better understand who you are, what teaching roles relationships play in your life and what needs you must focus on meeting within your relationships to sustain harmony.
Understanding your needs means understanding who you are. Self awareness is the corner stone to setting up a healthy thriving environment and atmosphere for yourself in what ever aspect of life, be it work, social, relationship and general life style.
I have friends whom are extremely emotional and I also have friends who you can’t squeeze a drop of emotion out of. Both of these predispositions are completely ok, there is nothing wrong with being more emotionally savvy or being more intellectually savvy or lacking in either department. Some of us learn more from intellectually disecting our experiences while some learn more from the emotions those experiences evoke. We are here learning on earth and this is what makes it all meaningful.
You can gauge how emotional you are on a scale of one to ten to figure out if you’re more than the emotionally charged average person. Often people who are more predisposed to feeling emotional might look at this like a challenge or in worst case a weakness. We know why this is often seen as a weakness and it mostly has to do with the fact that emotions are a physical experience that take over our ability to function according to our higher knowing. When an emotion gets sparked it usually clouds our thoughts, perceptions and ability to act from a rational place. Being emotionally charged can often deplete us of energy, concentration and in worst case scenarios incapacitate us completely from continuing to find balance and harmony.
The perks of being someone who feels a lot in this world are great. Much of what is created from emotions provides inspiration and guidance for others. Art in its many forms is often born from emotions. We feel, we need to express and so we create. What comes from that is often a powerful activator for others to feel and learn from. Creating thought-forms and perspectives through writing can shift the readers consciousness into a whole new level of awareness just like a painting or photo can stimulate the brain of the viewer and provide them with a sense of wonder and curiosity about the world. Music created from emotion can be a powerful healing tool for another to feel different things that can then activate dormant emotions that will provide inspiration, allowing them to feel happiness, excite them to new heights of energy or enabling them to feel suppressed emotions that needed to come up to the surface to be seen and loved.
Once an emotion is sparked it can not be shoved back down for too long without beginning to effect a person’s well being. Over time suppressed emotions fester and turn into self-sabotaging behaviours that leak out into one’s life in very unpredictable ways, causing all sorts of problems, keeping us at an arms reach from our life goals and desired states of being.
The key to personal power for the emotionally gifted person is to learn what situations spark intense emotions to begin with. These then become emotions that YOU are stuck managing and have to find ways of transforming and transmuting. Knowing what will spark intense emotions in our lives allows us to lay out healthy conditions for ourselves to thrive in. This self-awareness is gold for the emotionally gifted person. Self empowerment on this level is related directly to knowing your personal boundaries. Often we don’t impose our personal boundaries out of fear of hurting another, feeling loss, rejection, abandonment or simply out of a lack of self-love and awareness.
Once we can see clearly how emotionally sensitive we are, we can begin to set up our lives and our relationships according to this knowledge. Others appreciate this self-awareness and authentic communication because it gives them the space to be who they are and respect their own limits and boundaries. This also creates situations where they don’t have to deal with managing others emotions when they bubble up to the surface to be expressed.
When we don’t respect our emotional boundaries, and let’s face it, if we are extremely emotional our boundaries might seem overly high, ridiculous or dramatic to others, we end up feeling even more painful emotions which we then feel the need to project onto others. The feelings of betrayal within relationships are often our projections of self-betrayal. The question to ask is, “When did I stop respecting my initial feelings and thus corresponding boundaries with this person?”, “When did I let their needs supersede my needs?”. This is the beginning of the end for most relationships because once we allow others to come into our space and trigger emotions within us that we are not prepared to manage, we are the ones left to deal with them, long after that other person has left the room. This is also the point when we can start to project anger onto them, when we let them trespass our boundaries so much so that we have given control of our power of wellbeing over to them.
When feeling anger, betrayal, abandonment or disrespect within a relationship, one of the best tools to use to regain strength and power is to write out a list of all the reasons how YOU betrayed, abandoned or disrespected YOURSELF within the relationship. This will allow you to see exactly when you started to give your power away to another and when you allowed them to begin to betray, abandon and disrespect you within the relationship by not standing your ground and maintaining a healthy space for yourself to thrive in. This increases self-awareness of your emotional limits, allows you to see where you were being inauthentic with yourself about your feelings to begin with. It will also allow you to know which types of people are no good for you to interact with in depth and which types of people will water your emotional garden.
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