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FractioNation – How to Steer Clear of False Lovers

This Blog post is dedicated to the feely, mushy, lovey dovey empath types out there that keep on getting hooked into the wrong types of people, getting their hearts broken endlessly. Empaths aren’t necessarily naive, we are simply incorrigible lovers. We love to love and due to our sensitive nature we have learned to find the diamond in the rough—no matter how deeply buried— and focus on it to the point where we literally ignore all the rest, even the red flags, those aspects within others that could be damaging to our mental, emotional and physical wellbeing.

Whether we are female or male, false lovers exist for both. Have you ever met a full on player or a girl who is outright after your cash? These are not the people I speak of, they are to some degree respectable. They offer their truth, authenticity and make no excuses for who they are and what they are after, sex and/or money. I can relate to their honesty, it allows us to make a conscious choice and once that choice is made they usually respect it in return and a fun relationship can develop on mutual trust. If one wishes to pursue anyway, at least when the shit hits the fan and you realize you wanted something deeper you only have yourself to blame.

Those who I speak of are highly covert with their endeavours to take what they want from you with no regards to your feelings or personal journey. They are those that are highly intelligent and manipulative in their tactics to control your sexuality, that which ultimately leads to mind control. It can also be understood as mind control that leads to controlling that person’s sexuality or bank account.

These are not bad people at their core, I don’t believe anyone is, they are people who have, due to their childhood and life experiences, extreme self-worth issues and are vibrating in a constant state of grief. They are those that fear rejection and being hurt to such a degree that they chose to not take any chances of opening themselves up to vulnerability and love. They are so grief stricken that they can not even begin to contemplate allowing nature to run its course and lead them naturally and gently to a person who would be a good match to their personality, love language and evolution. Someone who they could discover life with and appreciate each other as they chase after their dreams.

They are the people that need to feel in control on every level. They need to control exactly how they wish to interact and how much they let others into their inner worlds. The risk is otherwise too great for them. They can not imagine taking the chance of being hurt again. I feel for them as my heart has been broken before too as I’m sure almost anyone reading this can relate to. These people have been hurt on a much deeper level though, walls have been so securely put in place that they themselves likely not know they exist.

I like to call this type of interaction Mindfuckery at its finest. The mental games run incredibly deep, nothing is unthought of. Every little communication and interaction with potential lovers or business potential is carefully plotted out first in order to limit all possibilities of them getting hurt or losing. Nothing they say is authentic, everything they say is in fact scripted. They have no intention of experiencing a sincere relationship in which they can grow and discover themselves further through a natural relationship dynamic. They are simply there to get what they want and when they are done they will simply leave you at the curb with no remorse and no excuses, on to the next.

This has been an ongoing collective healing throughout 2016 leading into 2017. Many people I have interacted with are/were faced with the fact that they have ultimately fallen into the trap of false love, clinging to the belief that those who broke their hearts can not possibly be as cold hearted as they appear. Often a warning will appear on sites that offer these types of tactics for mind control that the receiver could potentially lash out violently at them or become a stalker as they endlessly search for the missing pieces to the puzzle. The ironic scenario is for those who actually see beneath the games and see the beautiful soul with a million qualities that they themselves are unable to see, due to lack of self love.

Here are some of the key tactics used by False Lovers.

  1. They stay as mysterious as possible, never allowing you into their inner worlds so that they can draw you in with this age old allure while leaving room to keep you in the dark about who they are, never giving you a chance to see their weaknesses and make them feel vulnerable thus catching on to their game.
  2. They will always keep you waiting on communications. The psychology behind this is simple, we are drawn in deeper to what we can not have. You know those potential partners that leave you hanging for longer than necessary in order to keep you thinking and waiting on them for one simple reply?  The more time you think of them, the more your energy gets hooked into their fields, creating a stronger energetic cord of power over you.
  3. They will use reverse psychology on you at every chance they get, let’s face it, everyone knows reverse psychology works like a charm.
  4. At the beginning they will express approval over your negative qualities and eventually turn them against you. Allowing you to buy into your own bullshit at first, where a real lover would lovingly challenge you.
  5. They will overlook your good qualities creating a space for insecurity to develop, creating the impression that they know something you do not.
  6. They are big story tellers, every person admires someone who can tell a good story and entertain. They make a point to learn this skill but usually their stories are quite boring and there’s no real authenticity behind them. Often going on about all the amazing things they have (or don’t really) to keep your attention on them.
  7. They will appear to be independent and detached because they literally don’t care about whether you come or go. To them you are nothing more than the mere catch of the day, month or year.
  8. They will always appear to be fun loving and upbeat, never really expressing a natural array of emotions because they wish to maintain a false sense of perfection and popularity. The more they are liked, talked about and praised the better chances they have at obtaining what they want, whether that be opportunities in money or sex.
  9. They will constantly be studying behind the scenes what you can offer them in regards to potential prestige, opportunities of business, obtaining access to your network-who you know that can further their end goals and other potential lovers to use to their advantage.

For those men and women out there that believe using these tactics is still ‘challenging’ oneself in the game of life, there is nothing less challenging then following set rules that guarantee a fixed outcome based on the natural principals of psychology. That’s just plain cheating. The TRUE challenge is in meeting someone with authenticity, with an open heart and mind. This is when life can truly begin to teach you about knowing thyself. 

Due to the natural laws of this universe and how it is constantly wishing to balance itself out, empaths will naturally be a match to these people and vice versa. Where fractionators increase empaths’ awareness of the limitations of the ego and it’s power of persuasion, empaths increase fractionators awareness of the possibilities of living in self-love and authenticity.

As we step into greater sovereignty, the intentions behind these types of connections will become more and more apparent and these broken people will begin to heal themselves slowly as their focus moves into their deepest traumas and pain. It will allow them to face their inner demons, the ones still controlling their lives and limiting their experience of freedom.

Empaths are learning to not love blindly but to harness the power of the mind equally, creating a balanced state of being so they can live in a world where they are less vulnerable to life’s shadows and illusions. It is equally healing empaths, many of whom have been sexually abused and objectified, forcing them to own their sexuality once again.

Take time to get to know a potential lover, if you feel an extra ordinary attraction or attachment to them take a moment to ask yourself questions about their behaviour and whether or not they fit the match of a False Lover, based on the tactics mentioned above. Never sell yourself short and know that you deserve to be seen, heard and felt on a deep level by friends and lovers alike! Chose wisely and think BALANCE!

Blog on sacred connection coming soon!

One Love,

J

Finding Inner Balance – The Visionary & The Builder

Most of my life I’ve considered myself a tom boy. I’m known to be assertive and determined, I have a forward moving energy that is typically associated with the masculine, yang qualities. Aside from that I am a very feminine being, peaceful, open, receptive and flowing. We are always a bit of both depending where we are on our paths, hoping for the masculine & feminine qualities within to find their balance inside and out somewhere along the way and to be maintained day after day in perfect harmony.

I organized a workshop in Hawaii last year February that was all about tapping into and harnessing the feminine fire within. It was an incredible journey that brought me to my knees before some of the great feminine goddess energies that influence this earth and it’s people. Quan Yin, Mary Magdeline, Pele, Kali, Sekmet & Gaia herself. The journey inwards towards my feminine flame was cataclysmic to say the least. Our group was so in the feminine energy of receiving and flowing that the whole trip from A-Z just carried us around magically as if on a white feather or perhaps a broom stick. There was little effort involved in having everything unravel perfectly. We were in our feminine flow and opened to all we could embrace after deeply planting our seeds of intentions the months before departure, within the appropriate ebbs and flow of the cosmic energy, lunar cycles as well as using diligent planning and structure to birth it forth. I came home a new woman, deeply committed to healing my feminine wounds and allowing myself to open up to simply receiving more of life’s amazing offerings.

And so, as the time moved forward after my return I did in fact feel more of a connection to my inner unique feminine flame, to other men & women’s flames, their creativity, their sweetness, to my inner sanctuary of self-love, forgiveness & compassion, my intuition, my receptivity and to the greater cosmos, ultimately my womb connection to self and humanity. This was a very precious time, I even began to see this extra feminine connection bubble to the surface by way of appearing in floral prints on clothing I chose, jewelry and my desire to spend more time with women in general increased. I felt less in combat with my inner desires and more influenced to surrender to the tides of the ocean leading my life.

Flash forward a year later after healing many feminine wounds within I find myself at the feet of my divine masculine, a natural return within to regain balance and restore harmony from the deep diving work I pursued in the infinite waters of the divine mother. Qualities that protect and compliment my sweetness, purity, compassion and receptivity.  Qualities such as being completely grounded, logical, protective, focused and linear.

During this process I’ve reflected on how that plays out in relationships, the premise of looking to find balance through finding the missing qualities outside of oneself within another. Looking to fill the gaps within through the partners we chose. We are each responsible to bring balance into our being and our lives, thus bringing forth two wholes rather than two halves that compliment each other. This is the only way to create a harmoniously shared experience. There are no quick fixes, although I think it is completely and ubiquitously possible to find a partner that fills the gaps of missing qualities within. I believe that ultimately that kind of set-up has a rickety foundation in a modern world. As soon as one is no longer compensating for the lack in the other, chaos ensues very quickly.

I believe that we keep attracting people that will mirror to us those gaps within ourselves where we hold an imbalanced masculine & feminine state. It will keep on reappearing until we find this harmony within first. It’s really tempting most of the time to act as conditioned beings under the old relationship paradigms and simply find our way back into the arms of the protector or lover but truly if we are to make any advances in relationship dynamics we are in need of doing the inner work of balancing ourselves first.

What always attracted me to the very masculine was that they are by nature builders. Not only does this energy understand the basic structure of systems within architecture but it brings to linear understanding the clockwork of the human mind and the management of work flow timelines. On a very basic level we are animals following set biological and psychological principles. That very logical and rational way of seeing the world increases the ability to extract the mathematical basis of how things work, the patterns within the data that bring forth the statistics and reasonable truths.

Where as what attracts me to the feminine energy is its creative capacity, the ability to see beyond the seen without a linear logical process of thought to get there and the ability to adapt to change without needing to know what the best next logical step should be, rather intuition leads, and lastly the capacity to love beyond measure. I feel if we are truly tapped in to our feminine qualities we especially have the capacity to envision a feeling and birth it forth to share with others. To take an idea from nothing and hold it up so that it can be built in the world.

When we are balanced in our masculine and feminine energy we move forward in a shiva & shakti dance. We go quietly inwards to find our unique flame and then bring it forth out into the world to build it with concrete assertion. We envision, we make love to our inspirations with passion and birth them out to be manifested through diligent thought and linear steps forward towards their unraveling.

Nothing in this world can be well crafted if it has not been touched by balanced masculine and feminine energy.

As we move back towards sovereignty we are required to find our balance within with greater pressure. The way I see it, if both people creating together have balanced this masculine and feminine energy within already the success of the outcome must be doubled, rather than working together as puzzle pieces trying to first balance each other out in order to produce successful co-creations.

I believe one of the greatest tragedies of our modern day love story and within any relationship of masculine and feminine is that the over abundant feminine looks subconsciously to the over abundant masculine to be the matrix builders both of mind and material, to take responsibility in housing the wild creative feminine energy. It has felt natural to combine forces on this level for centuries because the patriarchy does not give room within its structure for the wild woman to exist and roam free entirely. And to be perfectly fair, nor should we allow ourselves be in only a state of feminine fire continuously. If that were to happen I believe we would see the most incredible revolution modern history has ever seen and it would possibly happen a little to quickly, setting fire to all in its wake. On the flip side subconsciously I believe the over abundant masculine looks subconsciously to the over abundant feminine to bring forth creative passion and inspiration because our society has not allowed for the masculine to be freely tap into and express the tender emotional cosmic ocean that flows chaotically within.

Simply put a woman is a woman and a man is a man but in my belief we are evolving into both. 2017 has become the year I wish to be the builder of my own matrix, firmly befriending my masculine qualities once again while continuously stoking my feminine fire, setting a firm foundation in place to house my wild feminine flame so that it may bring forth even greater inspiration and vision to this world.

I wish you all much inner harmony!

Bringing about Global Balance through Quantum Connection

Being an empath has its challenges. Recently a friend sent me an article about the shadow side of empaths in relationships. As I read through the material I related to most of it and thought to myself, “damn, it isn’t easy being hooked into the quantum field to the extent that we can so easily entangle ourselves with other’s energy.” The article speaks directly to how empaths don’t understand boundaries fully because they are so difficult to distinguish to begin with. The question of where do I end energetically and the other begin is quite the conundrum for an empath. Entanglement can run deep.

Due to my childhood and past life experiences I grew into a highly attuned empath. It’s a survival mechanism that helps one pick up on the undertones and dangers lurking behind the scenes. Like many that learned to protect themselves this way, being an empath becomes a way of life. I’ve been known to predict bad events for friends and family including specifically seeing someone’s bad intentions upon the first few seconds of meeting them, this is a type of protection for myself and those I love. Aside from being tuned in to what others are experiencing I closely scan their stress levels and body language. I can often simply walk past a person and feel very viscerally their experience, especially when they are in distress. Due to this I’ve been known to go incredibly out of my way to help others.

I especially feel others pain, which will help me understand their trauma and negative patterns. It can be lots to handle so I have found ways to clear my field as quickly as possible so I don’t bring anything with me when I step away. The only time I can not shake what I’m feeling is when a child or animal is in danger. All alarms in my body go off and at that point it literally becomes my problem. I have been known to intervene despite inappropriateness and to chase down pimps peddling young girls on the streets as well as sit on the phone with the police insisting they at least do a drive by.

Finding balance through all this isn’t always easy. We need to be in good health ourselves in order to help others. I don’t believe in being a martyr as I’m sure most others can agree. We can’t help anyone if we are no longer in a position to think clearly or have the energy to help humanity in the ways in which we really wish to, because a martyr depletes themselves quickly. Plus helping ourselves is in fact the best way to help others. Most of us only really learn through example anyway, so if the true desire is to help the collective, example speaks a million times louder than going into the darkness with someone to drag them out. If it was that easy we’d all be there.

I do believe that people of opposing strengths need to spend time together, this is the natural way of learning. Some might be better at loving their bodies, their temples, others at maintaining mental or emotional health and some offer spiritual wellbeing. We need to know ourselves well enough first to know who we can best help, based on their strengths and ours. These strengths need to compliment each other, if they do not then it becomes a challenge to keep rising together while continuing to offer each other a good example in an area where the other can use it wisely.

In the past 5 years I have really been striving to connect with a higher source rather than other people’s energy offerings. As I moved into this quantum space towards the higher realms I would find other souls along the way that were connecting with my energy in the quantum, probably due to specific work that they were getting done on a soul level with me. These are the people that I have had the most difficulty unplugging from energetically. I can cut cords and clear my field day and night but for some this does not work. For those that don’t cord cut every night I highly recommend it. This article goes into detail.

For myself in the 3rd dimension, the material plane, when no deeper tie is present it’s been easy to disconnect energetically from others, clients, friends and even family because the mind/body connection in the 3d is very instant. We think lemons our mouths water. We wish to disconnect from someone in the here and now, we disconnect. The nervous system reacts very quickly to intention. When we start talking about 4d, 5d and up there, mind/body connection does not exist in the same reactionary way, so the energies that have become entangled or merged to a certain degree are more difficult to disentangle. One would instinctually think that the less dense the easier to disconnect but it’s actually the opposite. Think of asking a mother to disconnect from her daughter energetically, it is completely impossible, you can keep them apart physically but studies have proven the connection stays intact in an incredible way. So many accounts of this have been documented and not to mention my own experience of this with my mother calling me after no physical contact for months, at pivotal moments in my life telling me she knows something’s wrong and would like to know what’s going on or my connection to my own daughter speaks to me entirely about this. The moment my grandmother died I knew and actually called in work to say that I wound’t be in before making the call out to my aunt.

When entanglement happens with specific souls there are usually certain lessons working themselves out that are life changing. When looking at the impact certain people have had on your life you can determine on another level what sort of soul contract you have made with them prior to embodying your physical form. We do not have to even be in physical contact with these people to receive information from them. Managing these connections in the here and now can become a bit of a challenge. In some cases more so for one than the other. If any of you have experienced this you will know the challenges that present themselves. The empathic scenarios I described above, felt in another’s company become equally felt at a distance. In my opinion the rise of one determines the rise of the other to a greater degree, because all is felt simultaneously. The well being of one becomes the wellbeing of another. The joy of one becomes the joy of another. The sadness of one becomes the sadness of the other.

As the Age of Aquarius is upon us, I am beginning to understand what this implicates in regards to these connections as we return to unity. As we return to one collective intention of uplifting humanity, a special focus has been placed on these connections that did not exist before and with greater pronunciation. I believe it is our attempt at balancing out the collective soul. A way of bringing forth balance, especially seen in regards to masculine and feminine energies, to the yin and yang, to the third dimensional aspect of living, duality. How will we return to unity if we are so individually driven? So, as we move into a higher state of consciousness thus into higher realms towards our inner god source, we feel more connected in the quantum field and thus to other souls and with that comes a greater responsibility to each other to maintain our individual well being.

Blessings to you all as you ride the quantum waves inwards back towards One, towards One Love.

Consciously Manifesting your Life

It is my utmost pleasure to talk about manifesting the life you want, why? Because I have been toying with this unconsciously (seen retrospectively), semi-consciously and very consciously through out my whole life. The conclusions I have come to are that yes we are literally controlling a huge portion of our experience, what opportunities arise before us, who we interact with and what types of experiences we draw in.

The mainstream reaction concerning manifestation is that if we were all able to manifest what we truly want why are we living in such a shitty world, why are children starving and people dying every day. This question is extremely valid and because so, it clogged my manifesting belief system for a long time too. It goes counter intuitive with the belief that we control reality because lets face it, most of you reading this are wishing well onto the world as do I.

There are many parts to understanding the practice of manifestation. I will discuss a couple important keys here. The first is the fact that until we gain control —assume responsibility— for creating our relationship with self and creating the tone of the relationships we have with others we can not move forward and begin to start co-creating positively our collective experience of reality thus changing the bigger picture on a global scale.

This is because everything begins from within, the macro reflects the micro experience. Sort of like when we are so happy about life because we just got a new job or have connected with the feelings of being in love, those rose tinted glasses shade the experiences of our outward world. We don’t notice in the same way the rude person staring us down or the impatient person pushing through the line at the supermarket. Their look of discontent doesn’t seem to penetrate us, why? Because we are feeling happy inside and we can see their unhappiness but we do not resonate with it. We can more easily know our boundaries, share our love and reach out a helping hand with more to give when we are feeling happy within. If we are feeling gloomy we will see and experience much more of others pain, the unfairness in the world, the evil, the imbalances become highlighted by our gloomy lenses. Most of us are still aware of what’s around us with rose tinted glasses on but we are not as affected by it, thus allowing us to create something new and something better from what we are presented with. So within, so without is like to selective and progressive vision.

So what makes us enter that state of happiness? Two things, one is the willingness to look at ourselves objectively and take responsibility for the mood and state of being we find ourselves in. How does that quote go? “The most important decision you will ever make is to wake up in a good mood.” Voltaire. We have to be truthful with ourselves if we do not find ourselves happy as to what is causing our unhappiness, as to what we don’t love about our lives, what we wish to change and what we are really dream of living?

These questions are at the root of good manifesting for ourselves and thus the collective. They allow us to face all that we have been hiding from due to shame, guilt, trauma, bad decisions, fear, self-worth issues ect. It takes guts to go there to begin with. Most of the time we are riding on autopilot through-out our lives, we work to make money, we have partners to fulfil needs, we have friends to boost our egos, we basically do things out of the habit of maintaining status quo, maintaining contentment. We might not even like the way our parents or boss treats us but because we have decided to survive that situation long ago either out of fear or because we did not believed we deserved more at the time, we just stayed there, long past the due date.

Manifestation starts by asking what do I dislike about my life that I wish to change?  Then finding the reasons why I wish to change this or that and then asking, how the hell did I get here to begin with anyway? Even if you don’t believe in the magic surrounding manifestation (a whole other topic I will get into another time) it doesn’t matter because it’s basic rational thinking. It’s analyzing where one is, why, and consequently where one wishes to go. “Where attention goes, energy flows”, James Redfield. It is quite powerful what begins to happen once we acknowledge we are no longer happy in our lives or with the situation we find ourselves in. We begin to take our independence, freedom and sovereignty back but not before we take responsibility for where we find ourselves to be. We begin to realize we do have choices about how we wish to be treated by others, who we wish to interact with, what our work environments and social circles are ect.  It’s not a black and white process, it is a slow steeping of new awareness and thus energy into our lives and into our exchanges with others that brings about a new reflection from the world around us.

Once we start making those basic life changes based on our desires and personal preferences we become happier with our day to day experience. We can only create rose tinted glasses for ourselves based on following what we truly wish for. We start manifesting situations more aligned with what it is we wish to experience based on our new truths. No matter what it is, we can start to focus on that and call more in of that by actively seeking it out, thinking about it and talking about it because fymfi using the power of word to create is the most powerful manifesting tool I have come across so far. It even works if you don’t believe in what you’re saying, especially if you say it enough and begin to believe it. There is a good Ted Talk on the topic of ‘Fake it Till you Make it’ concept by Amy Cuddy which provides and even broader perspective on the concept.

If you are perceptive and a keen observer then I ask you to look back on a situation in your life that you recently created, whether that be a new job, experience, state of being ect. Look back far enough to when you first started talking about it and to whom. What were you saying about it? How did the birthing of it arise in your mind firstly then in conversation with friends and family? Recollect the way in which you described it, the intention you had when conceptualizing it, did you say or feel that it was going to be challenging or exciting. Your core beliefs about yourself and the world will dictate how you do at creating something new for yourself. If you say it will be difficult to find a good companion or tiring to find a new job then that is because you truly do believe that, but listen carefully, those words that you speak based on those beliefs that you have are what you are literarily using as your foundation for creating your future experiences with.

So awareness leads us back to dealing with the how and why those beliefs came to be in the first place. You can read about this in many pieces Carl Jung wrote on the shadow aspect of our psyche, as did many others, including many modern spiritual guides. All this to say, when we are creating from these places of fear or selfishness we are not going to be able to have things unravel smoothly. It does’t mean we shouldn’t go ahead with the plans but trust that how you feel; a way of knowing what you deeply believe, will dictate how things will unfold for you. It’s lots of trial and error so get ready to be light hearted with yourself about what you are creating if you’re tracking manifestations. We can lie and say I will get the best job ever with ease and grace but if we are believing deep down, feeling deep down that it’s going to be a rough ride, so it is, so it is and so it is! I can not highlight enough the necessity for clearing the inner path before the outer path reflects our ideal outcomes. Recently I have come into conversation with a new way of processing old belief patterns that is rooted in the sensual revolution starting back in the 50s. When thoughts or beliefs arise within the mind that don’t feel good, meaning they don’t actually belong to your new belief system, stop engaging with them on a mental level, rather bring your awareness into the body and simply feel them. Allow those feelings to be without resistance and watch them dissolve 100 times faster than if you spent days or weeks wrestling with them on a mental level.

So, that was the first stage of manifesting, taking responsibility for our immediate experience of self and the tone of relationships we have with others. Clearing out all the crap that is holding us back from loving ourselves, believing we are lovable and deserving of the best. Yes do it, feel it, don’t run from those feelings, they are your key way in to the next level!

The second stage is about being as creative as possible about dreaming up, speaking up and feeling up what it is we are creating.

Use words that richly and specifically describe your ideal feeling of the final outcome while you are sharing your story with others because this is ultimately the part where we are waving our magic vibrational wand and setting ourselves up for the next reflection to birth without. Writing out your day as many do greatly increases your fire power and remember that manifesting has to be born from the heart with the greatest outcome not only for the self but the collective. Love yourself first and watch the world love you back!

Much luck to you as you actively create for yourself and humanity!

With love,

Jessica

Is your Third Eye Blind

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In the west we talk about the third eye as a thing of mysticism. We use words like clairvoyant and an activated pineal gland to describe what we call greater intuition.

 

As I plan some work in the final days leading up to a workshop Christine La Fontaine and I are doing, called the Feminine Fire of Creation – Woman’s Workshop, which you might have read about in my last post , I am contemplating what the third eye really is about.

 

We have become so attached to certain trendy ideas around the third eye that getting to the root of what the energy of the third eye is really all about is challenging many of my preconceived notions.

 

A word that stood out to me during my research was detachment. One of my favorite teachers of the chakra system is Carolyn Myss. I’ve been lugging around her book, ‘The Anatomy of the Spirit” for a good 16 years now. I’ve also taken a few classes on the chakra system over the years from various teachers in Montreal, learning how this way of looking at human spiritual development can improve our quality of life. It seems as though I missed this one understanding that I am now rejoicing in recognizing. This understanding is why higher intuition is available to anyone.

 

Through this understanding, the energy of the third eye, on a very basic level encompasses our ego activity, mind and greater consciousness. It is the culmination of lower energies, those being the tribal energy of our belief system, the energy of knowing who we are, as a unique expression, that which either creates or takes away from how confidently we feel in our ability to stand our ground in the world.

 

This energetic development includes the lessons around our capacity to love others and ourselves with our ability to meaningfully express ourselves into the world with truth and integrity. All of this is what feeds our minds with the ideas and judgments about how we should live. It tells us what we should be weary of, how much we should fear certain events, people, places and our own actions. It also tells us what we should be happy about, excited, thrilled and exhilarated by.

 

It is like an internal energy circuit that doesn’t stop running unless its fed new variables from outside sources. This is where the saying, thinking outside the box comes into play. This is where our ability to detach from our minds and egos allows us to step outside out of our default, energetic patterns within, to see our situations and ourselves from a completely foreign perspective. In this way of looking at things, we begin to tap into our greater intuition.

 

Our intuition is our ability to feel that something is off or out of alignment with what we are energetically broadcasting out and what I believe, we are predestined to do. We don’t always have the wisdom to know exactly what the outcome will be but we can see and feel enough from the perspective of detachment to know something is not a perfect match to that which is already in motion from deep within us and beyond our patterning, from our soul’s calling.

 

When we are in a mode of detachment, we can view our situation from a larger perspective but we can also begin to see symbolically. It is through symbolic awareness, a greater consciousness, a consciousness ultimately connected to everything that bestows us with insights and visions that we have no rational understanding of. It is this wisdom that allows us to connect the dots to seemingly irrelevant information within our environment.

 

We begin to reflect beyond the juxtapositions of conscious landscapes, the feed back loop going 24/7 within and the grander scheme of things expressed from the universe showing up as symbolic sight. Symbolic sight can be achieved with complete and utter detachment to all that we think we know, allowing a new language of understanding that is a universal language to step in.

 

The genuine intuitive knowing of, I just know I will be living in Australia one day, months before you receive a job offer in Australia, is not based on what our life experience tells us so much as our ability to detach from our life experience and conditioning to see the greater patterns inherent in the world around us, those which we are so intricately connected to.

 

To activate this energy center you can spend time looking at why you are doing the things you do. Why you have certain fears and what it is that keeps your internal energy circuit into motion. Giving ourselves the opportunities to self reflect ignites the power of the third eye to begin to take effect in our lives and increase our capacity to see outside of ourselves.

 

If we are someone to take things personally, be reactive to people and places, ruled by fear or are simply always caught up in the way we personally view the world, from our own limited understanding, it will be impossible to connect into something greater than our own conditioning to receive the gifts of visions and intuitions.

 

Allowing time to sit quietly and meditate are good ways to activate the third eye into growth and healthy functioning. They can help to calm the nervous system enough to allow us to transcend the human conditioning of our life’s experiences. The way our body is held reflects the way we’ve been molded into thinking and perceiving.

 

Relaxing our bodies relaxes our minds. This, in tandem with doing the inner introspective work, allows us to acknowledge personal illusion and open up the door to a larger perspective that encompass all perspectives of every possibility, leading to the clairvoyant universal sight we so readily call Third Eye.

 

May you all find the beauty, freedom and solace that lie within the blissful energy of the third eye!

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Calling in a New Year with Depth & Ease

Counting down the last hours of 2015 and gearing up for the New Day that launches us off into a new year full of possibilities always brings about thoughts of how we can improve our lives, our vitality and our emotional & mental health.

We begin to dive deep into what we enjoyed and especially what we didn’t enjoy. In fact, as humans it’s often way easier to dive into the muck than it is to celebrate the great.

This is a product of evolution, we linger way more in the ugly because its reflections expose us to all those things we NEED to be aware of in order to know exactly what it is we need to improve upon. Without this reflection no conscious change is possible. So yes, both of these avenues of reflection, the good and the bad, have their value and both should be honored and celebrated.

I propose we begin by investigating what the great moments of 2015 were before we step into what drug us down, for a few reasons. The first is obvious – when we take the time to celebrate our successes we can then avoid feeling so trapped by the not so great moments. Also, starting with the good, sets the lens of our focus to allowing more of the good to be seen and acknowledged in our inner world because let’s face it, we are way too hard on ourselves to begin with. Lastly, focusing on the good is light and refreshing, it uplifts us to a place where the bad seems less bad, it can bring us to a place where we take those failures less personally, decreasing the time we spend dwelling there. It creates the mental space to be more solution oriented.

Sit down in a comfy place, pour yourself a great cup of tea or beverage of your favorite flavor and begin to bask in all those precious memories where you were proud, engaged and in love with life. Write down every event that took you to these higher states of being. All events no matter how small should be included – if you remember them as great moments they have their place and validity in you wanting to call in more of them.

Look at how you can bring more of these moments into your life and write down those inspirations that come to you to do so. The list should be as long as you can make it. Spend time celebrating and feeling those feelings of higher living!

Bask In The Happy Light Of Your Successful Moments!

Now time to call in evolution through hard knocks, those difficult realizations, start to remember those failures gently and with compassion. Without going into the stories behind why you messed up or failed dearly at something, write them out as the observer. You want to get into a place of compassion with yourself, as though you were listening to a friend– in a very non-judgmental way– talk about her failures, her disappointments and her feelings of sadness that accompany these events.

Once you are in this place the list will begin to flow more easily and less painfully. Pragmatically write them all out, all the things you would prefer forgetting but know that by acknowledging and celebrating, you evoke the credence that provides the room for growth and change to burst though.

NO, THEY DID NOT HAPPEN FOR NOTHING, they happened because you decided to step into foreign soil and say or do something that didn’t work out because you lacked the awareness that comes only through experience. They were stepping-stones, NECESSARY STEPS IN YOUR JOURNEY TOWARDS GREAT MOMENTS.

Once they are all written out, begin to look at how they could have been avoided, move into solution based thinking and muster up a few ways that you could have done them differently, in a smarter and better way, to have called in the results you were actually aiming for.

Take a Deep Breath And Release All Tension You Are Holding On To…The Hard Part Is Over!

Bringing awareness to these things is what allows us to improve upon ourselves, our relationship to others and accomplish our dreams. It holds us in a higher perspective over our lives and immediately deepens our understanding of self-limitations. It gives us the opportunity to grow into greatness.

The last thing I want to share with you to HELP EASE YOUR WAY INTO A NEW YEAR OF BETTER LIVING is how to deal with BAD HABITS.

Oh those pesky bad habits that we loath over, the big ones and the small ones that we’re ashamed of, the ones we kill ourselves quietly and not so quietly over. I personally, like many others have been working on these throughout my whole life. Every now and then we come across an individual in the world that does not appear to suffer from destructive bad habits but usually what we encounter are people that talk about being suck in them and feeling powerless to them.

What I have come to discover in my own journey of overcoming bad habits is that we don’t need to focus on them or try to figure out how to fix them! That’s right, you heard me correctly, we don’t need to worry about them. The only thing we need to think about is what good habits we would like to bring into our life.

You see these habits don’t really belong to us, they were taught to us, they were coping mechanisms so we need not feel entangled with them at our core. We only need to acknowledgment them and then pay more attention to those habits we wish to cultivate.

The reason why this works magic is because by bring in habits that are beneficial to your body, mind and spirit, you begin to elevate yourself to a place where there is less and less usefulness in holding on to destructive habits. Bad habits are usually in place to preserve a part of us that feels helpless to the world and our life’s circumstances.

When we increase the positive feed back activity in our lives we decrease the reasons to reinforce habits that are there to perpetuate our feelings of helplessness. We move away from a victim mentality into a creator mentality. We feel empowered thus we easily assume responsibility for our lives and our daily choices.

Also by removing the focus from the bad habits we release resistance to them, so for example, when we buy that useless item to hide a feeling of emptiness, or chain smoke those cigarettes to distract us from undesirable emotions, we are way less likely to disengage when we are in the mist of the bad habit, meaning we are more present during these moments, meaning we more fully become aware of their underlying purpose.

Awareness Shifts Everything, By Being More Fully Present While We Are Practicing Bad Habits, We Are More Easily Able To Address Underlying Issues & Let Go of Them For Good.

I sincerely wish you all a great 2016, filled with a renewed sense of vitality, an open heart, greater internal and external freedom and lastly much inspiration to share yourself more fully with this gorgeous world of ours!

Xx

JD